I can’t believe that I will officially be 25 years old in a few days! It’s exciting with a quarterly life crisis slowly kicking in but I tend to like things that scare me. In a few days, I will be done with “early 20s” and become a “mid-20s” human. I am officially an elder and I recommend young people reading this to ask yourselves these 25 questions before you turn 25. The questions were randomly picked from different blogs, discussion forums, including my own formulated ones. I wanted it to be interesting, honest, daring and real.
P.S: I promise not to edit any answers for the purpose of reviewing this when I am 30. I also promise to be as honest as possible.
If you were standing 100% natural make-up free and naked in front of a mirror, how would you describe yourself?
Sexy. Cute. Pretty. Yummy!
How do you describe yourself without mentioning a physical feature?
Ambitious, Passionate, Intelligent and, Strong.
Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
Hmmm… In 5 years, I see myself making Kenya “home”, I see myself in a stable relationship with a liberal person who believes in making your own rules to life. Afterall, no body ever wrote a manual to hacking life. I see my career in women’s rights growing to advocacy or policy making with that Law masters degree in my pocket. I see my baby sister every time I come home.
How has your child-hood affected your adulthood?
Wow. I don’t know what relationship love is. I never saw enough love stories, lasting stories or beautiful stories to know what to expect from someone who claims that “they love me”. I am learning that and I hope that I figure it out soon. Being surrounded by powerful women and men has made me my own wife and husband material.
If you could do something with zero chance of failure, what would you do?
I will run for president.
What has been the best day of your life in your early 20s?
The day I was moving back to Kenya. When I turned 18, I told myself I wanted a job like my daddy (uncle), as an expatriate and I am very lucky and blessed to have that.
What stops you from loving you, like you love everyone else?
I do not think that I love anyone like I love myself. I love myself more than I love anybody else.
Are your friendships pushing you forward, bringing you down or keeping you stuck?
I do not have many friends, less than 5, so this answer will get me in trouble but I vowed to be honest. My friendships are keeping me stuck. We need to go somewhere friends.
Could you marry the person you are currently dating?
Tihihihi … Yes, I could. It’s the first person who makes me think of “husband qualities”. If you know me, you know these are not common thoughts for me, and if my future husband is not you, then I am very grateful for the realization of “what I would like in a partner”.
What are your relationship deal breakers?
Dishonesty. I am a very honest person by nature, if I can’t be respected or valued enough to be told the true, I am out. I understand petty lies exist but even that has a limit. I would rather not be informed than be given wrong information.
What does love mean to you?
I am still trying to define that. Let’s revisit this in 5 years. When I hit sexy-dirty-thirty.
Is there something that you hate about yourself?
Nobody is perfect. What I love most about myself is what I hate about myself. My honesty. I can’t conceal emotions or fake how I am feeling. I don’t know how to cool down and get over it. I feel it, I express it, I say it like I am thinking it. Poisonous!
What would you like to change about yourself?
My ability to control my emotions.
How do you define success?
Success is happiness. Like happiness, its temporary. I feel successful when I am happy doing what I love, and doing what I want. Which is not every day.
What achievements are you most proud of from your early 20s?
Ouh…. Quite a number.
- Joining the MWF Young African Leaders Initiative at 21 years old. I was the youngest fish.
- Being offered my dream Job. God bless my bosses and the organization.
- Finishing my Bachelor’s Degree at age 20 like I ALWAYS dreamed of.
- All the presidents and queens and high-profile people I have met and have become immune to being “star-struck” and developed public speaking skills.
- Not. Getting. Pregnant!
- Speaking at the EDD in Belgium.
- My most recent BBC ‘s #TheSheWord episode on women’s issues (That footage is going in my CV).
- Being financially independent.
- Starting the “Things to do before I am 30” Journey.
- Starting my business VIVID in Congo Brazzaville that lasted a year and did wonders.
- Getting very close to a “Fulbright scholarship” then giving it up to move to Kenya and work. It’s until 35 years old, I have 10 years if I wanted to apply again.
- Going back to church 😀 also meaning closing the door on rebel me.
- Gathering the guts to pursue Legal studies and slaying it like I had a “Honorable L.L.B”.
- So far, living life by own rules! I pray it continues.
Are you content with your career path?
Yes, I currently am.
What are you most afraid of and why?
I am afraid of loosing control. I freak out when things are out of my control.
Do you think you are a good example to those around you?
I would not want to be seen as a “good example” because I am my own individual, I refuse pressure and would not like anyone to be pressured. I don’t want to be seen as a “good example”. The person I am today might not be the person I will be tomorrow. I refuse to be a template for anybody. Do you!
What would you do if you knew that no one would judge you for it?
I would not give birth and only adopt kids when the desire to have kids would come.
Who inspires you the most and why?
My momma and my daddy (uncle). Because they are super-humans who brought up a super-woman. They are strong, ambitious, dedicated and rebels. I love them soooo muuuch.
What parts of your life do not reflect who you are?
The things and people I follow on Instagram.
Who is that one person you know you can talk to about anything?
My momma. My daddy (uncle) almost made the list, but got disqualified.
What am I most passionate about?
Social change. Women reaching their highest potential and not feeling sorry about it. Women saying and doing what they truly want without apologies to anyone or feeling that they should hold back their greatness. Nop!
What do I want to be remembered for?
Living life by my own rules and not denying myself the true joy/needs deep within me. I want people to say “She was the type to do whatever she wanted to do, you couldn’t tell her anything if she strongly believed in something, she would do it.”
Are you living the way you want?
Yes, I am, at 95%. A few hiccups that could be adjusted but that’s life.